What if… we were never to ‘go back to normal’?

I’ve heard it a lot and perhaps you have too, people saying “when we’re back to normal?”

 

Why would we want to go back to normal? Who would benefit from that ‘normal’? Would people benefit more from not going back to normal? What even was it that you liked about normal?

 

Holy Week invites us to prepare for the cross, to journey to the cross. Often we put this in the context of saying we need to travel with Jesus, bearing the weight of the cross, entering his pain. What if we, this Holy Week, entered that time of suffering to prepare for our own re-birth in a brand new way? What if we were prepared to travel with Jesus but in doing so, feel our own discomfort as well as his, not on behalf of him, but for him.

 

Most birthing is not comfortable or easy. That’s largely because we don’t find any change easy. But, ahead of this particular Easter Sunday, leading up to it, we can be travelling our own personal journeys asking what we need to birth anew, what do we need to leave at the foot of the cross? What do we know, or not yet know, that should never ‘go back to normal?’

 

One colleague I’ve spoken to referred to the amazing opportunities we have had, to share the Gospel during this crisis. As many have affirmed elsewhere, God doesn’t choose for us to suffer, but he gives us good things out of our suffering. He makes everything new, as he does and will on Easter Sunday.

 

As we go through this week let’s notice how we journey differently without the ways of formal religion. What part of not going back to normal is that leading us into?

 

There are many people for whom Psalm 23 speaks powerfully and I pray for them daily; for those who desperately need the ‘quiet waters’ and refreshment from our loving and merciful God – those who have lost loved ones, for those working on the front line. For some of us though I think we are called to enter a Holy Week that is an uncomfortable preparation for our own rebirth and for that of our communities. The two groups have at least one thing in common – the need for courage.

 

It will take a strong will, but isn’t that what was required of Jesus, as he was preparing to fulfil his Father’s work? What work does God want to fix our eyes on that we are not yet fixed on?

 

I think that we are at a pivotal moment where the world is waiting for us to pray, with fresh courage, and enter into a transformational time with the God who puts flesh on dry bones and who moulds us into his likeness. We need to be willing for the potter to form us and, as most of us know, formation can be uncomfortable. We will, naturally, also need great courage to be willing to go forward with change.

 

But this isn’t a comfortable season, globally, communally or individually. I feel like this is the moment when we could offer ourselves as true partners in the new. Are you ready to pray what that new normal could look like, for you, for your family, for wider society and for the Church?

 

What Jesus does for us, culminating in the Cross, is not normal! It is breath-taking and painful, and yet heralds the biggest invitation to freedom that the world has seen.

 

What are you going to pray for this Holy Week? What new life and new beginnings are just waiting for us? Where is God wanting us to form things newly, away from anything that we have called ‘normal’?

 

 

 

 

 

What if… we begin to sense God in all of this?

It’s a question that is asked often in times of crisis; where is God in all of this?

 

If God is love, then he is in our suffering. He is in our yearnings, our unknowing and our fears. He can’t not be with us whenever we suffer, because he loves us. Anyone who has sat with a sick friend or relative or a well-loved family pet will know that every time there is sickness there is a sort of suffering, because watching someone we love suffer grieves us. We love, so we suffer. God loves us, so he suffers with us.

 

Our suffering brings us closer to God. He is drawing us to him. Not that, as many people have pointed out before, God would have caused this suffering to happen, but he is a transforming God and will use everything for our good. He is in this moment with us now, leading us into a better love for and with each other. Inviting us into a better love for him.

 

God then is at the heart of our current yearnings, our pain and our prayers, and of course our sickness. When we pray for healing we echo God’s own call, his voice, for us and for the world to be healed. If God is love, then we can’t get away from him. He is in every moment, every frustration, today, yesterday and tomorrow. It might be a mess and chaotic, but God is in it with us, lamenting and sharing every one of our emotions. And loving us.

 

Where is God in this?

 

God is with the nurse, eyes red-rimmed and body awash with tiredness

He is with every family at the Thanksgiving where few are able to be there to give thanks

With the postie who wonders if the next house is virus-free, but has to ring anyway

He is with the grandmother who wishes she was able to call in and hug the children

 

God is with us in every moment

 

God is in the chaos of every emergency room and every overstretched hospital ward

He is with the nurse sitting with the middle aged person who is wondering if they will be of enough value to keep

He is with the parent balancing numbers, times tables with the board room Zoom

He is with the new parents, unable to present their beautiful baby to a waiting world

 

God is with us in every moment

 

Every time we look to our neighbour and wonder ‘what do they need?’

God is with us in every moment, in our questioning, our missing, our sense of loss

He is there, in our hearts, knowing, understanding and sharing it too.

 

He tends his flock like a shepherd:
    He gathers the lambs in his arms
and carries them close to his heart; 

Isaiah 40:11

 

Heavenly father

Even in this time of suffering, distress and isolation, we praise you, because you are a compassionate God. Your compassion has no limits. Hold close to you everyone who is fearful, lonely and especially those who are already sick. Bring them comfort Lord. For the men and women who are daily risking themselves in caring for us all, we thank you. Thank you too, for the signs of your love and care, for the phone calls and the WhatsApps, for those who prevent a moment of isolation – for those who are daily reflecting your love in these disturbing times.

 

Hold us close Lord God and let us know afresh the depth of your love for each one of us. Help us to understand how you are in the midst of all we go through, how you know our pain and how your love can get us through.

 

AMEN

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What if…we haven’t got the grades?

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I hope you’ve achieved what you wanted this month – and I celebrate with you if you have! – so that you can go on to do whatever you passionately want to do, but if you haven’t got what you had hoped for I know that you may feel disappointed.

It’s truly a shame that society so often looks at the A’s and the B’s and 1’s and the 9’s ahead of who a person is. I want to encourage you to look beyond the grades!

We can so easily get dragged down in disappointment if we haven’t quite hit the marks that were expected of us or that had been hoped for. Here’s a thing though. What you bring to the world is more than the marks on paper. The marks you make on people’s lives matter more. The way you make people feel matters more. Your determination to help those weaker than yourself; your sense of humour that makes friends feel good; a hand held and a word of encouragement are all so much more important. Your gifts to the world matter!

Your significance in the world is about who you are and what you offer to people in the world.

I love this picture.

It says so much about the person in the middle especially. In this picture I see kindness, a sense of protection, the acceptance of responsibility and also a gentleness. I know the child in this photo and he may well achieve ‘high standards’ but what he brings to those around him will always, for me, outweigh any grades.

I hope you do have the grades you want, but if you don’t, don’t settle on thinking that that is the sum total of your work. Your identity isn’t dependent on grades.

Prayer or reflection

Lord, help me to be strong in who I am. Help me to know that my identity in the world is about who I am and how I am with those around me. Let me grasp that the marks I leave through kindness, boldness and a willingness to care matter so, so much more than any immediate disappointment. Thank you Lord that my identity is in you! Amen

What if… we managed our disappointments better?

IMG_3646Exam results; pressures of work; the weather; illness instead of that lovely planned holiday (me over Christmas and New Year); we’ve probably all experienced disappointments during our lives. Some will be much more draining and go deeper than others. Sadly, some of our disappointments can leave their mark and effect our behavior for a long time.

According to the dictionary, disappointment is ‘Something or someone that is …  not as good as you had hoped” (Collins English Dictionary). The key issue is right there. It’s not simply about something not being like we had planned or hoped for but it’s the very fact that we had placed our intended satisfaction or happiness on a thing or a person. Things and people will often turn out to be not as good as we had planned for. ‘Things’ and ‘people’ aren’t dependable or reliable.

God is though.

If we look to Moses again, trying to carry out God’s mission of freeing his people from slavery, Moses must have experienced massive disappointment. When he spoke the words of God to the Israelites, that God would free them from their slavery, they didn’t believe him. (Exodus 6:6-9). Their discouragement and subsequent disbelief caused Moses to be disappointed in their reaction and also his abilities and so when God asked him to then go and speak to Pharaoh he was really unsure of himself. How could he possibly do that if his own people didn’t even listen to him?

Disappointment is a little like fear itself; it leads us into inaction and looking inwards, at ourselves, rather than looking outwards beyond our own circumstances.

God wanted Moses to look beyond his own abilities and look to him. His ‘faltering’ voice was of no consequence to God. God knew all about his voice and his questionable skills and abilities. It would, after all, be God’s action and not Moses’ that would bring God’s people out of Egypt.

If we imagine disappointment in a child, we can see their little shoulders go down, their heads hang. What good are we in God’s mission if we are spiritually and physically turned in on ourselves? We aren’t ready to partner and neither will we be ready to see what’s needed beyond our own diminished world. We’re not going to change the world by dragging our heels and looking at the floor.

We are called to rise above the immediate satisfaction in our circumstances and to look to God and to rely on him for our contentment. Disappointment dulls us, causes us to doubt ourselves and to question our calling, but God knows what his plans are. Let’s not allow disappointments to dull any of God’s plans for us.

Prayer or reflection

Please help me to see the bigger picture. Let me rise above the disappointments in my circumstances and find contentment in you.  Help me to look up and stand straight, and not to be weighed down by people or things that might distract me from God’s purposes.